CHILDHOOD ATTACHMENT DIFFICULTIES

I am experienced in working with individuals who have difficulties in forming relationships predominantly as a result of poor parental attachments. This work involves reflecting on the primary relationship with the mother or the primary caregiver - which may not have enabled the child to feel emotionally secure or nurtured. This often leads to the child growing into an adult who is fearful of abandonment and this is reflected in their adult relationships. When individuals form avoidant, ambivalent or disorganised relationships it is often as a result of difficult childhood experiences.
Attachment work involves reflecting on their primary relationship with their mother or primary caregiver where the emotional attachment has been disrupted. More often than not - this is due to the parent being emotionally absent - this can happen as a consequence of the parent having a dependency on drugs or alcohol, or is unable to care for the child or bond with the child due to their own ambivalent/avoidant style of attachment, or due to illness of either the parent or the child during early infancy, or the parent being absent for long periods of time.

Children need a primary attachment bond to create a secure base from where he/she can venture forth confidently into the world. They learn at an early age that other people have feelings and thoughts and learn to become in 'sync' with others through the emotional atunement which develops between child and mother.

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Therapy allows the adult individual to create a secure base within the therapeutic relationship to help individuals create a secure base to help heal their previous poor relational style.
People with anxious attachment issues tend to be needy within relationships whereby avoidant attachments are as a result of being unable to form relationships or attachments for fear of being abandoned - people who are avoidant tend to find it difficult to make commitments.